Dealing with the GIC waiting list
The waiting list for the GIC is a long, difficult experience, it can feel like you’re in limbo and it is never going to end. When I was referred to the GIC back in November 2017 I was initially told the waiting list would be 6 months, however, I got my appointment in March 2020. Every time I contacted them about any updates to how long the waiting list was and my position on it, it was longer and longer and it was extremely exhausting for me. There are things that I did to help me deal with the GIC waiting list that I would like to share to help anyone who may be in the same position I was.
Firstly, and perhaps the most important, celebrate little steps within your transition. Medical transition is not the only aspect of transition, celebrate all the haircuts you get, or when someone genders you correctly. You could compare you now with old pictures of yourself to see how far you’ve come if you feel comfortable doing this. You’ve already made so much progress by being on the GIC waiting list! You will be on the other side eventually, even if it feels like forever.
Another thing that can be helpful to do whilst being on the waiting list is to start writing about your gender in detail and how you feel about it. For me, I wrote an essay because this was the format that I could express myself best in, however this can be whatever format you feel comfortable writing in. In my essay I went into extreme detail around how I felt around my body and other aspects of my gender, how others misgendering made me feel and what I’d like to achieve within my transition. I eventually sent this essay to the GIC when I saw them and it was very helpful in them understanding my dysphoria and diagnosing me. Writing down how your gender makes you feel can also be helpful preparation for the kind of questions they will ask you at the GIC.
It is really important to have a support network around you during this time and know where to get help if you need it. During my time on the waiting list, I had many friends who had been through the waiting list and were now being seen by the GIC. I found this really reassuring as I knew that if they could get through it, I could to. If you are struggling with difficult thoughts, it may be helpful to talk to an organisation such as SHOUT, Samaritans or LGBT switchboard who may be able to support you better during those periods of difficult thoughts. It’s important to remember that you are not alone and you will get through this.
By Bren
